Counseling to Help You Reconnect
Counseling for Adults and Couples
in Murfreesboro, TN
Today’s world is overwhelming. Maybe you believe that you’re so lost in your struggles that there’s no way out. I help overwhelmed lost people find direction again. I want to hear about the things you are struggling with. Together, we will work to help you find a new direction that gives you peace and purpose.
Marriage and relationships can be incredibly hard. If you have ever had the thought, “This is not what I signed up for!” then you’re in the right place. I help disconnected couples reconnect. Together, we will work toward helping you both rebuild trust and find better ways of relating to one another.
Meet Daniel
Daniel Crosby, LPC-MHSP
I’ve been working as a Licensed Professional Counselor for over 12 years and in the mental health field for over 17. I’ve helped people overcome a wide range of struggles but most often those topics have included:
- Emptiness and sadness
- Excessive worry
- Career direction and transition
- Financial stressors
- Struggles in college and young adulthood
- Communication struggles
- Marriage struggles
- Men struggling with lust and sex addiction
- Divorce adjustment
- Faith questions and struggles
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I specialize in counseling for...
Depression, anxiety, career direction and transition, financial stressors, struggles in college and young adulthood, communication, marriage struggles, men struggling with lust and sex addiction, divorce adjustment, and faith struggles.
Recent Posts
12. Judgement vs Acceptance I had to go to court last week. (Maybe I should mention that I wasn’t the one in trouble.) No one was there because they wanted to be. We were there because something bad had happened. There’s that tension where we know that eventually the judge is going to seal our fate and past judgement. GUILTY! In your marriage, have you created an atmosphere in which you are passing JUDGEMENT or one of ACCEPTANCE? Judgement creates fear and distrust. Judgement will push them further away. Acceptance creates vulnerability and safety. Acceptance draws people nearer. 3 Ways to Increase Acceptance: 1. Celebrate Differences Embrace and appreciate the differences between you and your partner. Instead of focusing on how you’re different or how you clash, highlight and celebrate these differences as strengths. 2. Respect Boundaries Understanding and respecting these boundaries helps to build trust and shows that you value each other's autonomy and individuality. 3. Practice Forgiveness Acknowledging mistakes, both yours and your partner’s, can create an environment where both people feel safe to be themselves without fear of harsh judgment. Go Time: The Verdict: “We the jury find this marriage…..” How would you and your partner answer that question? Guilty/Not guilty? Depending on how you answered, it might be time to have a conversation about what to do next. Every day I help hurting frazzled people by walking with them as they get back on the path toward becoming who God created them to be. Shoot me an email if there’s anything I can do to help you or someone you know. daniel@danielcrosbycounseling.com
11. Christian Expectations in Marriage I read a delightfully painful book a few years ago by Gary Thomas called “Sacred Marriage.” It made me do some real soul searching. His idea is that maybe God created marriage NOT to make us HAPPY all the time, but to make us more HOLY, to make us more like Him. In my relationship with God, I often don’t communicate with Him very well, I get mad at Him when He doesn’t do what I want, I cheat on Him with things that I deem more worthy of my attention, and then I come crawling back when those things don’t fulfill me. What if your marriage was like that? Would you stick with it? God’s idea for Christian marriage is that we can practice, in just a tiny way, the love He has given us. His challenge is thus: “Daniel, do you see how I respond to you when you aren’t a great bride in our relationship? I still love you anyway don’t I? Now go and do that with your wife.” Go Time: No steps this time. This is more about a change in posture or philosophy. Lean into your spouse with grace and humility not with pridefulness and judgement. What if you loved them in spite of those little flaws that drive you nuts, recognizing that you have some of your own? See why reading that book stung a little? Every day I help hurting frazzled people by walking with them as they get back on the path toward becoming who God created them to be. Shoot me an email if there’s anything I can do to help you or someone you know. daniel@danielcrosbycounseling.com
11. Christian Expectations in Marriage I read a delightfully painful book a few years ago by Gary Thomas called “Sacred Marriage.” It made me do some real soul searching. His idea is that maybe God created marriage NOT to make us HAPPY all the time, but to make us more HOLY, to make us more like Him. In my relationship with God, I often don’t communicate with Him very well, I get mad at Him when He doesn’t do what I want, I cheat on Him with things that I deem more worthy of my attention, and then I come crawling back when those things don’t fulfill me. What if your marriage was like that? Would you stick with it? God’s idea for Christian marriage is that we can practice, in just a tiny way, the love He has given us. His challenge is thus: “Daniel, do you see how I respond to you when you aren’t a great bride in our relationship? I still love you anyway don’t I? Now go and do that with your wife.” Go Time: No steps this time. This is more about a change in posture or philosophy. Lean into your spouse with grace and humility not with pridefulness and judgement. What if you loved them in spite of those little flaws that drive you nuts, recognizing that you have some of your own? See why reading that book stung a little? Every day I help hurting frazzled people by walking with them as they get back on the path toward becoming who God created them to be. Shoot me an email if there’s anything I can do to help you or someone you know. daniel@danielcrosbycounseling.com
10. Friends or Foes? Marriages often implode when the hopeful belief we’ve always had about our marriage is unexpectedly exchanged for a contradictory fearful or hopeless belief. You married your spouse because they seemed different than all the other people you had dated. They are “the one!” You knew that if you could spend the rest of your life with them then they’d have your back and you’d always have a safe place to come back to. Suddenly, a financial deception, an affair, or an exposed secret rocks your world. Your spouse goes from your greatest ally and protector to your most feared adversary and enemy. CONFUSION! 3 Ways to Turn Foe Back to Friend: 1. Reminisce Retell your spouse the story of how you met and why you picked them from your perspective. Those were better days and remembering the good can help us get through the bad. 2. Responsibility Take responsibility for how you’ve not been a trustworthy friend to your spouse. Tell your spouse how you’ve messed up and let them know that you get how your mistake made them doubt your safety. 3. Request Ask your spouse if they are willing to let you slowly rebuild trust again. Ask them what types of things they would need to see to begin to be able to trust you again. Go Time: Sit down with your spouse tonight and have fun retelling the story of how you met and your first date. Every day I help hurting frazzled people by walking with them as they get back on the path toward becoming who God created them to be. Shoot me an email if there’s anything I can do to help you or someone you know. daniel@danielcrosbycounseling.com
10. Friends or Foes? Marriages often implode when the hopeful belief we’ve always had about our marriage is unexpectedly exchanged for a contradictory fearful or hopeless belief. You married your spouse because they seemed different than all the other people you had dated. They are “the one!” You knew that if you could spend the rest of your life with them then they’d have your back and you’d always have a safe place to come back to. Suddenly, a financial deception, an affair, or an exposed secret rocks your world. Your spouse goes from your greatest ally and protector to your most feared adversary and enemy. CONFUSION! 3 Ways to Turn Foe Back to Friend: 1. Reminisce Retell your spouse the story of how you met and why you picked them from your perspective. Those were better days and remembering the good can help us get through the bad. 2. Responsibility Take responsibility for how you’ve not been a trustworthy friend to your spouse. Tell your spouse how you’ve messed up and let them know that you get how your mistake made them doubt your safety. 3. Request Ask your spouse if they are willing to let you slowly rebuild trust again. Ask them what types of things they would need to see to begin to be able to trust you again. Go Time: Sit down with your spouse tonight and have fun retelling the story of how you met and your first date. Every day I help hurting frazzled people by walking with them as they get back on the path toward becoming who God created them to be. Shoot me an email if there’s anything I can do to help you or someone you know. daniel@danielcrosbycounseling.com
9. Walls and Windows In their book Not “Just Friends,” Glass and Staeheli talk about the concept of “Walls and Windows” in a marriage. Picture a house with strong exterior walls to keep out invaders. That house is the marriage. Inside of that house each spouse has a separate room. Their room is their life and self-identity. Now picture a big window between the two spouses’ rooms. This is the healthy connection between the two where love and connection flow freely back and forth. Now picture a struggling marriage where both spouses exchange their window for a wall between the two of them. Then picture one or both spouses putting in a window in the exterior wall where they can begin to exchange love and connection freely with others on the outside. This is how marriages begin to erode and affairs can even begin. 3 Ways to Protect Your Walls and Windows: 1. Boundaries Have a conversation with your spouse about what types of behaviors are acceptable or not acceptable within your relationship to protect it. For instance, “A husband might say that he feels uncomfortable with either of them having a casual 1-on-1 lunch with a coworker of the opposite sex. Keep the outside walls solid. 2. Vulnerability If you’re struggling with beliefs, feelings, or behaviors you must let that information flow freely through the window to your spouse. They can’t know and change what you refuse to share. Keep the window clear and open. 3. Awareness Regularly check on the window. Ask one another: “Do you feel like you can come to me with things? Are you feeling fulfilled with me?” Regularly check on the walls. Ask one another: “Are there any concerns you see in us lately that has weakened our walls? What outside forces are pressing in on us and trying to knock us down?” Go Time: Discuss this windows and walls concept from Glass and Staeheli together and think about how it may or may not apply to your marriage. Every day I help hurting frazzled people by walking with them as they get back on the path toward becoming who God created them to be. Shoot me an email if there’s anything I can do to help you or someone you know. daniel@danielcrosbycounseling.com
