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“The Needs of the Heart” by Chip Dodd is a book that will blow your mind. When I picked it up, it’s a very small thin book. Less than 100 pages. I assumed I’d breeze through it in a couple of hours. About a month later I finished digesting it. The truth is we cannot fully live the life God has called us to unless we acknowledge that we do have needs, that these needs are good, and discover the healthy ways of meeting these needs. Chip takes common human needs like Security and Accomplishment and he unpacks what they really are pointing us to in his typical concise but brilliant depth. There’s no fluff here. With chapters just 3-4 pages each, you’re going to want to have a highlighter ready to underline, to ponder these topics, and maybe then to discuss them with someone you know and trust. You’ll come away from this book with a deeper sense what is already fulfilled within you and ones that might be lacking where you need to go do a deep dive with a lot of prayer and introspection. If you liked Chip’s book “The Voice of the Heart,” this is one is your next read. Go grab “The Needs of the Heart” by Chip Dodd.

Two ways a counselor might help you get uncomfortable and grow: 1. Systematic Desensitization is progressively working your way up to do harder things until you reach your goal and the hard things don't feel as hard anymore. 2. Flooding is when you conquer the struggle by going all in and confronting it head on. It's like teaching someone to swim by throwing them in the deep end of the pool. Could these things help you overcome some complacency? Come see me and we can talk more about it. www.danielcrosbycounseling.com

Hurt Discomfort vs Harm Discomfort? What's the difference? One is good for you....keep doing more of that one! It helps you grow. The other is destroying you...so stop doing that one today! If you're struggling to know the difference, this is where counseling can help. Come see me. www.danielcrosbycounseling.com

"Growth and Comfort Don't Coexist" The scariest thing about getting uncomfortable is doing it alone. I want to offer you a safe judgement free zone to say the uncomfortable things out loud. If you're uncomfortable with your lack of growth then come see me and we'll dig into it together. www.danielcrosbycounseling.com

“My Life and Work” by Henry Ford is the autobiography by the famed automaker. Yes, that Ford, like the one in your driveway. Why read this one? One, I’m obsessed with learning. Two, I read things that are interesting to me. Three, I want to be successful and not waste this life God gave me. One way I can succeed is from learning from interesting people who succeeded in the past. Success is relative, and while I don’t want to start a car company, I do want my life to have an impact in some way. Henry Ford’s life and work were fascinating. Three things I learned: 1. Ford had an attitude of persistence. He kept going until he found what worked. Setbacks are not failures, just opportunities to try again. 2. Ford knew that people mattered. While known for his radical and maybe even perfectionistic efficiency when it came to inventing the assembly line, he never lost sight of the value that individual workers have in making that system work. 3. Ford believed in service above profit. He knew that if he gave the customer a good product at a fair price and treated them well then the profits would take care of themselves. What all could we accomplish if we simply lived and worked by those 3 principles?

So if you work in corporate America and have to lead or attend meetings, then this book is a must read for you. Do yourself in those you work with a favor and read it today. If you have ever attended a meeting and thought to yourself, “I am bored out of my mind and this could have easily been done in a short email,” then read this book and you will be entertained. “Death by Meeting” by Patrick Lencioni is a phenomenal read. I love the way he writes because he takes what could’ve been a really boring step-by-step business book and he creates a narrative fable in which he teaches us. As I was reading the book, I couldn’t help but think to myself, “Yep, that’s why those meetings were so terrible for all those years.” And when I say that, I am pointing a finger back at myself because I helped lead some of those meetings. Most people don’t want to change and most people like the status quo in their comfort. Changing the way you do meetings at your organization is going to create some friction and take some work, but the reward for it on the other end might blow your mind. If you don’t know what to do, then start by picking this book up and learning while being entertained by “Death by Meeting” by Patrick Lencioni.

When you're restless and uncomfortable what do you do? We tend to medicate, distract, numb using social media, fill our world with noise, clean to stay busy, use substances, and have affairs. We'll do nearly anything to keep from sitting in our thoughts. I help people solve their restlessness once and for all. Send your friends my way. I'll take good care of them. www.danielcrosbycounseling.com

“Loving Your Spouse When You Feel Like Walking Away” by Gary Chapman is one of the better books I’ve read lately for struggling marriages. Gary’s the guy that wrote the book “The Five Love Languages” that has been such a hit for decades. This book goes deeper. If you’re in a marriage and you feel stuck and hopeless and like nothing is going to change then you’ve gotta read this one. The premise of the book is that you cannot control your spouse, but you can influence your spouse. Is your spouse irresponsible, a workaholic, depressed, controlling, verbally, physically, or sexually abusive, uncommunicative, unfaithful, or addicted? Well there’s a whole chapter on each of these where he breaks down how you can influence your spouse for good. The book is hopeful, yet realistic. Dr. Chapman is honest in saying where certain situations are going to be harder to overcome than others but also how every situation is worth trying for. If you’re considering a divorce then it would be good to read this book 1st to see if you’ve really done all you can do to overcome your marriage struggles. Or if you’re just tired of dealing with the same crap over and over again than this is a good one to read. Go pick up “Loving Your Spouse When You Feel Like Walking Away” by Gary Chapman.