60 Second Recap - Control the Chaos
Daniel Crosby • August 23, 2024
1. Control the Chaos
Whether it’s a health crisis, infidelity, or a season of disconnection, at some point you are going to hit a rough patch in your marriage where you begin to question everything.
Your marriage is spiraling. Your spouse is spiraling. Your mind is spiraling.
Everything seems like complete chaos.
The first thing you must do is CONTROL THE CHAOS.
We CANNOT control other people, especially our spouse. We CAN control the chaos inside of ourselves so that we can manage to fight for our marriage another day.
3 Steps to Controlling the Chaos:
1. Recognize that you are lovedThe love in your marriage may be struggling but you are going to be ok. You have close trusted people in your life that love you and will support, encourage and walk with you through this.2. Say it out loudGo to one of those close trusted people that love you and say the crazy thoughts in your head out loud. When chaotic thoughts are trapped in our heads, they only breed more chaos. Saying it out loud creates clarity.3. No sudden movementsAvoid quick desperate attempts (or threats) at convincing your spouse to recommit. “Rome wasn’t built in a day” and it’s going to take some time for you to rebuild your marriage.
It’s Go Time:
Write down the names of 3 people that are your close trusted people. Which one of them are you most likely to call (Yes call, not text)? Call them!
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