60 Second Recap - Learn to Communicate Again
Daniel Crosby • September 16, 2024
5. Learn to Communicate Again
To communicate we must first feel safe. To be safety, we must know what the ground rules are and respect them.
Communication is a two-way street. It involves being a good talker and a good listener. Gary Brainerd, PhD calls these two roles the “Sender” and the “Receiver.”
Most of our communication mishaps involve when we’re both trying to Send at the same time or when someone shuts down out of pridefulness and refuses to Receive anymore.
3 Ways to Learn to Communicate Again:
1. Ask, Don’t Demand, Time for ConversationsBoth people must be ready to Send and Receive. Asking for a conversation allows the other person to decline if they aren’t in a good headspace right now.2. A Topic, Time, and PlaceTell your spouse what you’d like to address and stick to that topic. Set the time for the conversation in the future to give you both adequate time to mentally prepare. Talk in an uninterrupted place with no phones or TV on so you can focus.3. Set a Time LimitThere is often one spouse that likes talking and one that doesn’t. Setting a reasonable time limit (and sticking to it) helps avoid one spouse feeling overwhelmed and the other spouse from rambling for hours on end.
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