Anxiety: Resiliency (90 Second Read)
Daniel Crosby • January 30, 2024

Resiliency - the capacity to withstand or to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness. (Oxford English Dictionary - 2023)


This life is brutal sometimes. We all have the scars, physically and emotionally, to prove it.

 

You have been through some awful stuff in your life, stuff that would give others nightmares.


Here are 3 things that are true:


1. People suck - They’ve hurt you, bullied you, made fun of you.


2. Life isn’t fair - You’ve been rejected, passed over, abandoned.


3. You’re hurting - You’ve wanted to give up, not wake up, just quit.


Here 1 BIGGER truth:


1. You are stronger than you think you are.


You may not feel this way, but the truth is that you have a 100% undefeated record.


Nothing that you have ever come up against in your life has defeated you because you’re still alive and kickin’.


So what?


If you’re still here, then that means you have a purpose. You have a job to do. The rest of us need you.


For me personally, my faith in Christ tells me that. God created me with intentionality and a plan in mind. I have a mission to accomplish. Whether you believe like I do or not, that’s still true for you.


We all must get back up and keep moving. Who knows, maybe the hurt you’re going through right now has great purpose in the future?


Rory Vaden said, “You are most powerfully positioned to serve the person you once were…Look back on who you were and help that person.”


Homework:

1. Consider how your current or past hurt could be used to help someone who is going through the same thing? How could you advocate for them? How can we help each other?

2. If you don’t know how to make sense out of this, find a good friend or a good counselor to help walk with you through it. There is purpose in the answer. Don’t try once and then give up.


Every day I help hurting frazzled people by walking with them as they get back on the path toward becoming who God created them to be. Shoot me an email if there’s anything I can do to help you or someone you know.

Depression and Stagnation

By Daniel Crosby • October 20, 2025
Depression + Stagnation What do you do when you’re doing all the right things and still feel depression lingering? Depression isn’t an on/off switch that goes away overnight. It rarely gets better in an instant. There’s a progression to it. If you’re investing in some of the things we’re talking about in this series CONSISTENTLY then you’ll probably see some positive changes over time. In the meantime, try these ideas to help boost you out of your stagnation that you’re feeling. 1. Acknowledge progress over perfection. You didn’t get here overnight. Where did you begin and where are you now? What has improved? 2. Go serve someone else in a new way – Focusing on others is a good way to boost the way you feel about yourself. 3. Consider a shock to the system. A trip to a new place, a different therapist, a new hobby, a job change, or making a new friend can all make us feel alive again if we’re stagnant. Homework: Finish this statement: “In the last week, the thing I’m the most proud of myself for doing is_______.”
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Depression and Sleep Strugles

By Daniel Crosby • October 13, 2025
Depression + Sleep Struggles Sleep is one of the biggest struggles we face when we’re depressed. Oddly enough the diagnosis manual says “Insomnia or hypersomnia nearly every day” as one of the symptoms. Whether you can’t sleep at all or you’re sleeping all the time it can really rock your world. Maybe your mind is just spinning with all the jumble of thoughts in your head. Or maybe you have no energy and you’re struggling to just do the basics before going back to bed. Here are 3 ideas to get the sleep routine back on track: 1. Create a predictable wind-down ritual – Early dinner, Herbal tea, Warm bath, Good smelling lotion, Clean sheets and jammies. 2. Try “brain dump” journaling at night – Write down today’s wins and loses as well as tomorrow’s worries so your brain can let go of those things. You can relax better without ruminating on it because it’s written down. 3. Avoid doom scrolling— Replace screens with audio or soft light activity. Soothing. Uplifting reading. Devotional. Positive in/Positive out. If you must watch TV make sure it’s an emotion that competes with depression (funny!) Homework: Try a new bedtime strategy tonight and notice if it helps you wind down a little easier. Your brain and body will thank you tomorrow morning.
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Depression and Guilt & Shame

By Daniel Crosby • October 6, 2025
Depression + Guilt and Shame "I just hate telling my friends and family how I feel because I feel like such a burden. I’m sure they’re sick of hearing about it by now." One of the lies depression tells us is that we have to carry this thing by alone because no one else wants to help. Guilt and shame are the heaviest lies that we tend to carry but we fight lies with the truth: • Feelings aren’t always facts – Just because you feel like a burden doesn’t mean you are one. That’s what we in the biz call a cognitive distortion — your mind is offering its opinion as fact. • Asking for help is strength, not weakness – When my mom said, “Y’all come help me carry in the groceries,” I never thought she was weak. When we love each other asking for and receiving help should go both ways. It’s an honor to help not a burden. • Treat yourself like you’d treat a friend – If someone you loved felt the way you do, you wouldn’t tell them to keep it to themselves. You’d listen, support, and remind them they matter. You would even be mad at them for NOT telling you. You deserve the same. Homework: Identify your 3am friends. These are people you could call at 3am and they’d come running with no questions asked. If you don’t have any 3am people, then go back and read the post about finding the # 1 Symptom of Depression. It’s time to start building those connections.