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60 Second Marriage Recap - Friends or Foes?
Daniel Crosby • October 25, 2024
10. Friends or Foes?

Marriages often implode when the hopeful belief we’ve always had about our marriage is unexpectedly exchanged for a contradictory fearful or hopeless belief.

You married your spouse because they seemed different than all the other people you had dated. They are “the one!” You knew that if you could spend the rest of your life with them then they’d have your back and you’d always have a safe place to come back to.

Suddenly, a financial deception, an affair, or an exposed secret rocks your world. Your spouse goes from your greatest ally and protector to your most feared adversary and enemy. 

CONFUSION!

3 Ways to Turn Foe Back to Friend:

1. Reminisce
Retell your spouse the story of how you met and why you picked them from your perspective. Those were better days and remembering the good can help us get through the bad.

2. Responsibility
Take responsibility for how you’ve not been a trustworthy friend to your spouse. Tell your spouse how you’ve messed up and let them know that you get how your mistake made them doubt your safety.

3. Request
Ask your spouse if they are willing to let you slowly rebuild trust again. Ask them what types of things they would need to see to begin to be able to trust you again.

Go Time:
Sit down with your spouse tonight and have fun retelling the story of how you met and your first date.

Every day I help hurting frazzled people by walking with them as they get back on the path toward becoming who God created them to be. Shoot me an email if there’s anything I can do to help you or someone you know. daniel@danielcrosbycounseling.com
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